Baby to Toddler: Changes

My little boy is now almost 18 months old. A year and a half already! The time has flown by and even though I try to be an intentional parent who is very present and involved it still has slipped by amazingly fast.  Something that I have struggled with in the past couple of months is the big changes that have taken place in “Transformation – Baby to Toddler”.  I’m loving that he is growing and doing all the things he should but I just feel a little behind, like it snuck up on me.  What really made the difference was walking.  When he became an accomplished walker, along with that came this big sense of independence and wanting to do so much more for himself.

Overall, I have adjusted and love to see how he is learning and growing every minute.  However, I read an article today that you can read here at Chronicles of a Babywise Mom and it was really enlightening for me.  I feel the pressure of having so much to teach to my baby and this article helped me to keep it somewhat in perspective.  I have built a really strong foundation with him and I feel like maybe lately, I’ve been trying to work on new things that have become problematic and haven’t been working on the things we already learned (signing, individual playtime, sleep habits).  This article states the importance of focusing on not losing ground during this “pre-toddler” stage rather than focusing on gaining new ground.  By doing this you actually gain ground.  I’m not going to explain in detail any more about the concept b/c she explains it great in the link above.  But it is so true! I want to go into toddlerhood in the same position I entered and not less.

So, a couple of the things I’m going to implement back into our routine are structured playtime and signing.  We have slacked off in both of these areas and I think both are really important.  With the signing, I have not been as consistent in having him sign for what he wants and he has developed a habit of whining or sometimes reaching and screeching for what he wants.  Not good!  We are going to have an interesting week implementing some of these things back in but it is so important for baby B to learn that he has to ask for things the right way and also to be able to have structured playtime (as opposed to roaming around getting into whatever he wants at times).

Well, that is just what is on my heart at the moment.  I will let you know how it goes!  Anyone want to share, please feel free.  🙂

Day 6: Parenting

Another big topic tonight! Right now, if I had to give a summary of my parenting point of view, it would be this: Be present.  Be THE parent.  Play, work, laugh, and teach with your children.  Care more. Be consistent.  Look for ways to better yourself as a parent all the time.  Always try to be reading something on parenting or kids.  Something that will teach you and that you can put in your goody bag of parenting skills. Talk to other parents.  Observe what works and what doesn’t work.  Believe in yourself as a parent.  Be confident that you are able and are the best person to raise your children (sadly for some we all know this isn’t true, but generally speaking….).

Unfortunately, I know a few parents who just aren’t concerned with parenting at all.  It seems to me that they are flying by the seat of their pants.  They don’t have any kind of structure and you can always tell when spending time with their children.  They don’t listen.  They are into everything when they stop by for a visit.  It seems like there are no limits for these kids.  And when they leave (if they stopped by for a visit) you take a deep breath and feel a tiny bit guilty at the relief you now feel that they’re gone.  All kids can be a handful, sure…but I’m talking about young kids who lean toward the wild side.  Is it their fault or the parents?  My belief is that a parent has so so SO much influence on many aspects of their child’s behavior.  Kids will drink up the time and effort you put forth with them.  It’s hard work being a parent! But it’s worth it.  Kids want love and they want limits (even when they act like they don’t) it makes them feel safe.  As parents we need to be proactive and not just sit back and let life happen.  We have a big job but we CAN do it!!!

That’s my rant for the day….